Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Just Some Thoughts

I came across this picture and it got me thinking. Friends. Why do we have to surround ourselves with people and why are they so important to us. I've never been one to have alot of friends...mostly because I felt I really didn't need them. When you open yourself to someone you call a friend, you are also opening yourself to hurt. I've been hurt so many times by friends I couldn't begin to count them. I left my guard down and it's happening again.
I was talking with my daughter Jenn this morning and we were discussing this same subject. Her and I are so much alike it's crazy. She is exactly like me in not having many friends and probably for the same reason as me....I'm tired of being hurt.
Maybe I'm crazy for thinking this way, I don't know but I do know it stops now. If I have to become a hermit to stop this type of hurt, so be it. I can not deal with these types of people anymore. Let me know your thoughts on this and if you feel the same way or completely different.
As always, Barbara

10 comments:

Trina said...

A great big hug coming your way, my dear friend!

~ Stitchin Sweet Sue ~ said...

Sorry you're feeling blue Barbara, sounds like you deserve a HUGE stash shopping trip. If you're ever this way (NY Finger Lakes Region) we can shop til you drop! By nature I am quiet/reserved (compared to others), so I don't require a lot of attention or commotion around me all the time, and commotion means people, and people means a lot of yack-yack-yack. Get enough of that at home. As a child I always felt it was just plain stupid to run ones' mouth for the sake of doing so, and still do:) I am just naturally happier being quiet by myself or with a few close friends. Now you know:)

PS ~ your flower/yard pics have been lovely!

Bekca said...

I think it doesn't really matter about the number of friends you have, as long as they are true friends that are always there for you, through thick and thin. As long as you're happy with the people around you, then the number is irrelevant :)

Barbara said...

Thank you ladies for your kind words. Today is another day and a better day.

Kay said...

I'm sorry you are hurting! It's difficult when you feel like you've invested part of yourself into a friendship and you get betrayed or dumped on. My mom always told me that in order to HAVE a friend, you have to BE a friend, which is difficult for some people. I'm with you - some of these "friendships" just aren't worth the effort!

Barbara said...

Kay, this friendship had lasted 28 years and that's why I'm hurting. Becoming a hermit is looking better everyday.

Sue, I thank you so much for the shopping trip idea. Would you believe I did that on Tuesday? LOL and it does help.

Thank you for the help everyone. I do appreciate all the help and kind words. I never realized how helpful a blog can be for your soul. Barbara

Mistylynn said...

Sorry your hurting Barb but I do have to admit to understanding. I grew up in a military home so have to say I was never in one place to make good friends. As an adult i guess I carried on the same way. I have never had what you call a good friend. I wish I did. It would be nice to have someone just to chat with, share stories with and share our craft with. Guess at my age of almost 52 my hopes of having a good friend are gone now. I kind of keep to myself at home.

Barbara said...

I use to think I was strange because I felt better staying at home and keeping to myself. Now I see that there alot of us who are just fine being home bodies. Is it today's society that makes us this way? I don't know but I do feel more comfortable in my own home than anywhere else and I will stay this way. Maybe we should start a blog for us "loners". Think it over...might be kind of interesting.

Redrodi56 said...

Morning Barbara,
I hope you are enjoying sunshine and happy thoughts by now. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves - it's good to remember this when problems arise - can it be fixed? Only you know - is it worth the effort? Depends on the hurt. I still love ya if that helps! ;-)

Lenka said...

I'm the same the same experience, so I too have only few friends. I'm careful now whom I open to and prefer to keep to myself.